How to gracefully deal with rejection

Murakami Saburō - Passing Through, 1956

Murakami Saburō - Passing Through, 1956

Rejection hurts, but like most things in life, we can’t control WHAT other people think about us. However, at any given time, we can decide HOW to react to these rejections.

When it happens, we should never take it personally. The rejection has nothing to do with us, so we shouldn’t second guess ourselves and our value.

I personally like to consider them as blessings in disguise.

We might not always understand the bigger picture and how these rejections might redirect the course of our life or career, but we can trust that they are meant to happen.

Whether that rejection looks like a client refusing your proposal, not succeeding an interview for a course or a job, getting fired or simply getting ignored, here are 4 tips that could help you get through any type of rejection:

1) Always be intentional with what you do so that no action you have performed can result in regret.

If you know you have given everything you have into something, you cannot look back and wish you could have done better.

2) Recycle projects

That idea got rejected by one client? Reuse it.
Put it in your portfolio, develop it as a series for a personal project and exhibit it, or simply pitch it to similar companies.
The possibilities are endless; but basically make sure you are not giving up on yourself or that idea because one door closed.
You’ve just been redirected!

3) Be relentless with your goals, but flexible with your actions

Can’t find that fashion internship in that very specific city? Move out.
No one is hiring you for that job you have so much to offer for? Go freelance.
Being too closed minded and stubborn about the "how” can prevent us from ever reaching the “what” that meant so much to us. Always follow the direction of the wind even if it doesn’t push you where you wanted to go. You’ll save your precious energy and find yourself far closer to your goals than you ever imagined. Just trust.

4) Stay open and curious

We tend to look at life too seriously driven by our ego. Rejection usually offends us and we shut down and get bitter.
Instead keep a playful spirit and ask yourself “what should I learn from this?” and ask life “what are you trying to tell me?”.

Now, I am curious. In your experience, what has been the most positive outcome resulting from a rejection?